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Wednesday, April 09, 2008

It is never easy to lose a loved-one. Dogs are family members. They either grow up with us, or join our circle of trust the moment they enter our family. Nature works in mysterious ways. Small dogs live for a long time. Large dogs live for a short time. A Havanese can live up to 19 years if properly cared for, while a Bernese Mountain Dog lives for about 8 years only. This is an important factor to take into consideration, when buying a certain breed. 8 years is not a long time. How can one say goodbye, when the time comes? Ok, so this is not a happy topic, but it is just as important as when one deals with dog training or canine nutrition. It is inevitable. Why avoid discussing it?

As far back as Ancient Egypt, royalty mummified their favorite cats and dogs to ensure that in the after-life they would stand proudly next to them as well. In many countries, today – especially in the US and Australia- pet cremation services are highly respected. Others choose taxidermy, to force immortality into the body of their pet dog. This is more common in Europe. In Eastern Europe for instance, taxidermy is still more common. The topic of pet cremations can be found in pet forums, but its popularity is not felt yet.

The Dog...Our Family Member


However, loss is loss. And if one treats a dog as a family member, then he or she deserves that final respect as well. Some may choose a burial. There are many companies these days that offer pet cremation services as well as grief counseling services. This can be especially important for children, so that they can accept and understand, what it means for a dog to pass away. Writing poetry or creating a pet memorial blog are also means by which one can digest grief. It is thus not surprising that most dog poems are about those dogs that have gone to doggy heaven.

In a span of 21 years, I have said goodbye to 3 Dobermans, 3 Rottweilers, 1 Rhodesian Ridgeback, 1 Staffordshire Bull Terrier, 1 Great Dane, 1 German Shepherd, 3 Pavement Specials (please note the capital letters, out of respect) and 3 birds. The cause: a Gypsy lifestyle, African snake bites, old age and dog fights. There were no cremation services...and taxidermy was not an option. Burial ...and poetry were. (Hmmmm...maybe we should've had a Havanese?) However you choose to say goodbye to your beloved pet is your own choice and own right. Either way is painful. Although the saying: - “It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all”- is true, the final moments are still the hardest to live with...

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Your words have acted as a source of solace for me right now. Two nights ago my family and I had to put down our beloved Dalmatian, Jesse. She was 3 months shy of 13 years (a significant milestone for a Dalmatian). Old age culminating in a heart condition and seizures (everything else was fine) proved to much for her and whllst we selfishly wanted to "try every drug known to mankind" to keep her with us just that bit longer, it was kinder to let her go and be at peace. I too, have grown up with many, many animals - and the pain I felt when each one passed away was enormous, But with Jesse, she has left such an imprint in my heart - maybe it's just me getting older... but she gave us joy beyond anything I've known. Do we feel guilty for ending her life? Yes, but I know that's normal emotions to have when having to let your best friend go. We had to think of her first and her quality of life - the drugs may have prolonged her life 1 week, 1 month or maybe at a stretch one year, but she would not have been "our girl", our "spotted angel"... it was time to let her go to God and the Doggy Heaven we all talk about. I lit a candle for her tonight in Church, on my way home from work - and hers was the brightest candle of all. I know she'll always be in our hearts and her energy will always surround us. We will scatter her ashes in the river water where she used to love to swim - covered in mud she would come home proudly showing her adventures. We miss her terribly, but our Jesse lives on forever in our hearts. Goodbye my girl. Goodbye.....

Posted by Kerry at Friday, May 30, 2008 06:01:40

Thank you for posting this. yes the grief can be overwhelming and we lost our beloved Sugar - Raye July 18, 2008 and I still cannot believe she is gone. I know she is playing with the angels and God Bless her kind gentle soul, she will be remembered forever

Until we meet again dear Sugar Raye, love your family

Posted by SANDRA HORYSKI at Sunday, July 20, 2008 18:28:56

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